Building a Family Gratitude Practice
Family gratitude practices offer meaningful opportunities to acknowledge special people, places, and experiences in the midst of a hectic holiday season. Committing to a family gratitude practice may seem daunting, but can take just a few minutes each day. Here are a few of our favorite ways to start!
Pause and Practice
Make a conscious effort to express when you feel grateful throughout the day. Chat openly with your child about the beauty and goodness that surrounds you: lovely weather, kind friends, a park to explore together, or simply a favorite book to read with a favorite someone.
During especially hectic days, many of us struggle to pause and practice gratitude. Consider setting a gentle reminder on your phone every hour or two (think soothing chime sound vs. jarring alarm), so you can share your gratitude practice with your child throughout the day, wherever you are. At the dentist? Maybe you’re grateful for the view of tall trees swaying out the window or the kind receptionist who made you feel comfortable when you arrived. Pausing to practice gratitude in the presence of our children greatly impacts their ability to develop gratitude practices of their own.
Share Daily
Maybe your to-do list is overwhelming. Perhaps you feel like you’re spending the entire day racing from one Zoom call to another. Or both. Here’s how to create a daily ritual that inspires your entire family to reflect and connect:
Find a time of day that works for your family and add it to the routine. When are you most likely to be in the same place at the same time? Life happens, but try to be as consistent as possible. Dinner time works for some families, but bedtime may be a better, more realistic fit.
Gather your family and explain the importance of truly listening and being fully present with one another during this special time. TVs and computers off. Phones out of sight.
Choose a gratitude practice that feels right for your family. Some families may choose to say or sing a prayer of thanksgiving together. Others may take turns sharing the very best part of their day with one another. When it’s your turn to share, be sure to use the word “grateful” or “thankful” in a context that your children can understand. “Today, I went for a run in Central Park and noticed beautiful, colorful leaves. I am grateful for my strong, healthy body because I love running!”
Send a Letter
Help your child reflect on the special people in his or her life.
“Who makes you feel happy? How?”
“Who teaches you new things?”
“Who helps you when you’re feeling sad or hurt? How?”
Invite your child to send a letter of gratitude to a friend, classmate, family member, teacher, or someone from the community that has made an impact on your child. If you don’t have an individual’s address, you could always hand-deliver!
If your child is unable to write her own words, have her dictate to you. A prompt may be helpful for younger children:
“Thank you for ___________.”
“I am grateful for you because _____________.”
“You make me happy when ________________.”
